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‘Reality vs Reality’ Is The New Body Positive Instagram Trend That Everyone’s Posting About

Let’s be real: loving your appearance is hard enough, but when you throw social media into the mix, it can really make you obsess over your imperfections.

Between perfectly airbrushed influencers and flattering filters, there’s a lot that our feed can do to make us feel bad about ourselves.

Plus, when it’s summer, and you’re constantly scrolling through model-worthy bikini pictures, it can be difficult not to draw unhelpful comparisons with your own body.

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Thankfully, a fresh a wave of body positivity is sweeping Instagram, and there’s a new viral trend that’s shining a light on the fact that women’s bodies look different all the time, and that we shouldn’t feel ashamed when we don’t look our best.

Dubbed ‘Reality vs. Reality’, the movement sees Instagrammers post a ‘posed’ and ‘relaxed’ photo side-by-side, along with an empowering statement based on the assumption that our bodies are real and beautiful, whether they’re posed in the perfect Instagram shot or captured in a seemingly less flattering light.

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I̶n̶s̶t̶a̶ Reality and ALSO REALITY / I don’t care if you POSE FOR PHOTOS or if you just hang out. Because posed or relaxed, arched or slumped, whatever you do with your body, it is STILL YOU. And it is STILL worthy, still amazing, and still REAL. I talk a lot about how SOCIAL MEDIA is not real. It’s filtered and curated, filled with thousand of tiny moments and precise, popped, perfected snapshots. I’ve said repeatedly how I’d love to see more wiggles and jiggles on here. More human folds and skin dips. And while we’re at it, more nuanced vulnerability and raw emotion. But never once have I said the people DOING these POSES are FAKE. Shameful. Wrong. Or that ONLY the folks rocking their cellulite are REAL. I’m fine with women doing both. Either. Neither. Whatever. Because here’s the thing: Empowerment feels different on every woman. How we choose to show up and express ourselves echoes in millions of unique ways. And instead of focusing on what divides us, Or wrapping SHAMING in a shiny new package, We should look at what it means to empower one another. To support each other. And to step out of some stupid patriarchal framework that says other women are competition and that differences must divide us. So today, cowgirl, if you want to pose, you go pose. If you want to let it all hang out, you do that too. However YOU own your body is incredible. What matters is that it feels AUTHENTIC TO YOU. Not to the gal next door. Not to the images you see on social media. But to YOU. In your head. Your heart. Your raw human soul. Only you can know that, truly and deeply. All I’m asking is that you show up. You be yourself in whatever wonderful way. Because that? That’s the kind of REAL I want to see on here. x #selflove #instavsreality #selfacceptance #feminist #iweigh #mycalvins #womenempowerment #womensupportingwomen

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Although they might look similar, it differs from its viral predecessor ‘Instagram vs. Reality’, which also showed comparative pictures of women looking their best next to a photo that they felt showed their imperfections.

According to those leading the charge, the problem with the older movement is that it suggests that the Instagram-acceptable version of our body is somehow superior to the one we see 99% of the time in the mirror, which can have a negative effect on a woman’s self-worth.

Basically, we’re moving the conversation forward.

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Dear people on IG.. When you do your beloved “IG versus Reality” images do not, please, forget that us curvy women do not get to suck in our stomachs and look like what society defines as “IG models”… We do not wake up after a day of bloating and get to be a size 2 again. Us curvy girls when we share our posts there is no bloating going on… There is no “I gained 5 pounds during my vacation and that’s okay”. What we get when WE post our beautiful bodies (in any position) is thousands of comments recommending us diets, shaming us and our bodies in ways you could never imagine. I get the intention behind those posts, I understand it’s important for all the young girls out there that are on the skinnier side and following you to see those posts but there is NOTHING bad with the posing or not posing , there is nothing wrong with anyone’s body at any time. SO PLEASE can we make sure to not forget that a lot of us bigger women no matter how we stand WE have a belly showing, WE have bigger tights and bigger everything’s including big hearts and spirits? And god knows there is A LOT OF US. No one can be the ambassador of every single movement out there and we need to be okay with that, we need to be okay with saying that when you’re an actual model it is a lot easier to be “vulnerable” on social media about little things that you dime not perfect about yourself, because the people that follow you would do anything to look like you. It doesn’t mean you never get your struggles with confidence it just means that you recognize that for the HUGE majority of women being proud of their bodies is followed by a lot of hate, shame and humiliations, and if anything all the YOUNG girls and WOMEN everywhere that follow us need to be reminded that their bodies are perfect even if no amount of sucking your belly in can hide it. PLEASE learn to Love your body in all it’s shapes and particularities the more you love it the more you will want to do what’s right and healthy for it ❤️ If you compare your body to others, if you don’t love it you won’t ever do what’s right for it. Define your own standards for yourself, and be proud of it! ❤️

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“I don’t care if you pose for photos or if you just hang out. Because posed or relaxed, arched or slumped, whatever you do with your body, it is still you,” writes Danae Mercer, an influencer who is at the forefront of the movement.

“This is your body, looking different within 0.007 seconds as you turn briefly in the mirror. If you can love yourself at the ‘good angles’, you can love yourself at the ‘bad angles’, too,” added another Instagrammer, speaking on the trend.

While we’re not here to shame anyone about posting beautiful photos of themselves looking their best (heck, we’re all guilty of it), it can be really refreshing to see women going against societal pressure and sharing the realities of their bodies. Stretch marks, cellulite and all.

Basically, whether you’re flexing on the beach looking buff on your holidays, or you’re slumping on the sofa in front of Netflix, your body is still your body, and it’s beautiful in every form. We reckon that’s a trend we can definitely get on board with.

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