The way couples relax on the sofa can reveal more about their relationship than they might expect.
According to a poll by ScS, the sofa and carpet specialist, the habits of over 2,000 people in relationships suggest that everything from spooning to sitting at opposite ends carries its own relationship insights.
Here’s a rundown of the most common lounging styles and what they might mean, with insights from body language expert Dr Georgina Barnett.
Sitting Separately on Two Sofas (37% of Couples)
The top choice for British couples, sitting on separate sofas is often a sign of comfort and independence.
Psychologist Dr. Barnett explains that this arrangement signals a well-established, contented relationship where each partner values their personal space.
“It’s about focusing on individual needs, even while together,” she says, adding that it can be a positive sign of trust and maturity in a relationship.
Legs on Lap (20%)
If one person’s legs are draped over their partner’s, they’re subtly asserting control—perhaps not only in that moment but in the relationship dynamic too.
This posture typically signifies a happy, comfortable bond where both partners feel secure. The subtle “power play” shows a playful and at-ease couple.
Side-by-Side (Touching but Not Cuddling) – 18%
This relaxed position signals a stable, trusting relationship that balances closeness with personal space.
Couples in this arrangement are connected but not overly clingy, maintaining intimacy alongside a sense of independence. Dr. Barnett notes that it’s typical of couples who have confidence in their bond.
Bookend Style – Opposite Ends of the Sofa (16%)
Known as “bookends,” this setup hints at independence within the partnership. Although the space between them may look like detachment, Dr Barnett suggests that it represents confidence in the relationship, allowing them to comfortably enjoy space apart without fear of growing distant.
Cuddling in the Corner (12%)
Cuddling in the corner often indicates a close bond with a subtle layer of relationship dynamics. The partner sprawled in the corner usually displays confidence and subtle dominance, while the other partner may seek reassurance by snuggling up.
This position reflects affection and a desire for closeness, while also hinting at a slight power balance in the relationship.
Cuddling in the Middle of the Sofa (9%)
A classic “new love” position, snuggling in the middle often signals connection and mutual affection, Dr. Barnett explains.
Couples in this position prioritise each other’s presence, reflecting equality in the relationship. If their heads lean together, it deepens both emotional and physical closeness, common in newer or highly affectionate relationships.
Corner Cuddle with Tucked Legs (8%)
The partner with tucked legs might be seeking comfort, says Dr. Barnett, while the other, typically more relaxed, assumes a “protector” role.
This posture reflects intimacy and can suggest a bond where one partner is slightly more dominant while the other feels safe and cherished.
Amy Forster, Content Executive at ScS, finds it fascinating that “both cuddling and sitting apart can signify a strong and loving relationship, depending on each person’s preferences.”
Next time you’re on the sofa with your partner, see if your favourite position might reveal something intriguing about your relationship.