Buying an engagement ring is a milestone moment, but it can also feel daunting for many men. It’s likely to be the first time you’re choosing a ring, and it’s unlikely that you’ll do it for a second time!
With so many styles, stones, and cuts to choose from, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. In this guide, we help you navigate the process and find the most suitable ring for your partner.
1. Understand Your Partner’s Style
The first step is to understand your partner’s taste in fashion and jewellery. Pay attention to the outfits they like to wear both daily and for special occasions.
Do they prefer gold, silver, or platinum? Most people prefer to choose one metal colour and stick with it, not mix and match silver and gold.
Think about their style too. Are their pieces simple and minimalist, or do they love bold, statement designs? You can also subtly ask their friends or family for input, or even take note of their Instagram account and online shopping wish list if they have one.
2. Set Your Budget
Engagement rings come at a range of prices, so it’s important to set a budget before you start shopping.
There’s an old rumour that you should spend three months’ salary on a ring, but this isn’t true and could set you back financially. Choose an amount you’re comfortable with and only allow wiggle room if your family can help you.
Many jewellers offer financing options to help you manage costs long-term. Remember, engagement rings for men and women are personal and sentimental, which is what matters most.
3. Learn the 4 Cs
Diamonds are discussed, categorized and advertised according to the four Cs:
- Cut: Refers to the interior shape of the diamond, which in turn determines how it reflects light and sparkles.
- Colour: The purest diamonds have no colour. However, some ‘white’ diamonds still appear slightly yellow or brown.
- Clarity: Natural diamonds form unique internal marks or characteristics known as blemishes. Gems with no visible marks to the naked eye are the most valuable.
- Carat: This refers to a diamond’s weight. Remember that a higher carat doesn’t always mean a better ring, because size isn’t the only barometer you should use.
4. Choose the Setting
The setting is the metal framework that mounts the diamond and holds it in place. Popular styles include:
- Prong: Classic and timeless, with clearly defined claws that hold the stone securely.
- Halo: A circle of smaller diamonds surrounding the showpiece centre stone for extra sparkle.
- Bezel: Sleek and modern, with the metal encasing the stone entirely – sometimes more affordable too.
The choice of setting depends on your partner’s lifestyle and taste. Active individuals might prefer a minimalist design with metals and stones known for their durability.
5. Consider alternatives
Finally, remember that not every engagement ring needs to be a yellow gold band with a diamond. While this might be the most traditional style, there are plenty of other gemstones and designs to choose from.
Stones like sapphires, emeralds, or moissanites can be unique, beautiful, and often more budget friendly. Choosing a different stone could allow you to spend more on the gold.
Then there are the ethical and environmental issues with diamonds too. Lab-grown stones are also a sustainable alternative if you’d like to steer clear of mined diamonds. Similarly, some second-hand rings look good as new for a fraction of the cost.
With these steps in mind, you’ll be on your way to selecting the engagement ring of your partner’s dreams.