We’ve all heard of the phrase FOMO (anxiety that you’re missing out on an exciting event), but what about FOMOG? FOMOG refers to the fear of missing out on goals for example:
“I’m going to get a promotion this year”, “by June I’m going to have the perfect abs” or perhaps you’ve simply told yourself “in 2019 I’m going to be less stressed” – Starting to sound relatable?
We live in a world where everybody’s achievements are on public display, perfectionism is praised and office workers do an extra 17 hours a month ‘just to be seen.’
With everyone stepping their game up a gear, the fear of not achieving your goals can become even more terrifying, because lets face it, nobody wants to be a failure right? Our experts are here to help you set achievable stepping-stones for the following goals…
Before we start… What do you want?
Isabella Venour, London Coach and Founder of Mind-Style explains, “It’s easy to compare ourselves with others, especially when we get stuck scrolling through social media and get a brief snapshot of someone else’s life – their gorgeous holiday destination, their funny night out with friends and their booming business or career.”
“Trying to focus on all the things you want to be, do and have in your life can leave you feeling overwhelmed.
To help it feel more manageable, write down all your goals (so that they literally start to become a reality) and the date by which you’d love to achieve them.
Decide on which one you want to prioritise and break that down into chunks, identifying which of those chunks you can focus on first.
Then decide, over the next week or two, what one thing you can do that will get you a step closer to achieving that goal.”
Top tip: “We often know what we don’t want in life, so spend some time thinking about what you do want and watch how your mind starts looking for and finding solutions.”
Goal: I want a great summer bod
I know it sounds cliché, but at one point or another, we’ve all said to ourselves, “this is the year I’m going to feel great in body.” Then one fad diet later – we give up.
“Diets don’t work. It doesn’t matter what kind of diet it is – whether it’s high protein, high fibre, low carb, low fat, alkaline, paleo or a juice fast – they all end the same way.
Yes you might lose weight in the short-term but harsh diets or faddy regimes simply aren’t sustainable. The moment you quit, you will put on all the weight you lost and often more besides,” explains the UK’s leading Nutritionist, Dr Marilyn Glenville (www.marilynglenville.com).
Top Tip: “The key to long-term weight loss is by changing your eating patterns and lifestyle. Yes it will be gradual, but it will stay off and you will feel wonderful.
If you makehealth your goal rather than just inch loss, your whole perspective and relationship with food will change.” For more information on why diets don’t work and what you can do that does, get yourself a copy of Natural Alternatives to Dieting (£9.97, Amazon).
Goal: I want to be a success
Whether your goal is to get your dream job, a promotion or a pay rise, first things first, sleep. “Sleep is the foundation for an energetic and productive work day.
Avoid screen time 1-2 hours before bed, and enjoy calming teas such as valerian root or lemon balm for a more restful nights sleep,” advises London’s Leading Nutritionist Lily Soutter (www.lilysoutternutrition.com). This will be much more beneficial than staying an extra 17 hours at work a month ‘just to be seen’.
Goal: I want to gain more knowledge
In order to acquire as much knowledge as possible we need to have the energy to not only motivate ourselves but also to retain and regurgitate the information.
A huge chunk of our energy comes from our diet. Nutritionist Fiona Lawson, working in collaboration with itsu, the healthy Asian-inspired food chain, recommends snacking on seaweed. “From Japanese nori to Welsh laverbread, seaweed is a delicacy that’s been enjoyed for thousands of years.
This special type of algae contains virtually all of the minerals that are found in the ocean. These minerals are essential for many bodily functions, but especially when it comes to supporting energy levels. Iodine, for example, is vital for thyroid function.
Your thyroid is a butterfly-shaped gland found in your neck. It may be small, but it plays a huge role in governing your metabolism and thus affects how vibrant you feel.
Another valuable mineral found in seaweed is iron. This enables our red blood cells to carry oxygen all around our body, which is essential for keeping us bright, alert and full of vitality.”
“Seaweed also contains several B vitamins, such as riboflavin and pantothenic acid. The body uses these to help us break down our food effectively, enabling us to derive as much energy from our meals and snacks as possible.
By selecting nutrient-rich meals and snacks, such as itsu’s Crispy Seaweed Thins (£1, Available Nationwide at Tesco), you are taking powerful steps to support your wellbeing.”
Goal: I want to gain confidence
Have you turned the big 40 and noticed a dip in your confidence? “From around the age of 40 your body will start preparing for the menopause.
As these changes happen, it is not unusual for some women to think that they are going ‘crazy’ during this time, and it is important to know that these symptoms are common and that you can do something about them.
The sorts of symptoms you may start to experience include physical symptoms like hot flushes, night sweats, lack of sex drive, tiredness, weight gain, vaginal dryness, drier skin and hair, joint pains, hair loss, headaches and psychological ones such as depression, mood swings, forgetfulness, lack of concentration, loss of confidence and self-esteem, anxiety and tearfulness.
Make sure you are eating healthily and get your blood sugar in balance, because being on the blood sugar roller coaster can make these hormone fluctuations feel worse and will make you feel less confident, more anxious and irritable.
This means not only thinking about the quality of the food that you eat but also the timing. You need to completely eliminate added sugar and refined carbohydrates and reduce caffeine in order to see a marked improvement in your confidence and mood generally,” explains Dr Marilyn Glenville.
Goal: I want to save
Many of us would like to save a little extra, whether that’s for a wedding, house, car or a holiday. Overtime is great but think about things that you could do everyday to save an extra pound here and there. Did you know that you can save money and reduce waste by making your fresh food last longer?
Lily Soutter shares her top tips:
- “Brush an avocado with lemon juice or olive oil once cut open to stop browning.”
“Freeze fresh herbs by chopping them up with garlic and mix with butter salt and pepper, roll into a log shape and wrap in cling film. You can then cut off chunks and use them on meat and fish to add flavour.”
“Store your fruit and veg separately – some fruits such as apple and banana can promote ripening in other fruits”
- “Keep lettuce or salad leaves and fresh herbs in a Tupper-ware with dry paper towel to absorb their moisture and prevent them going off”
“Don’t wash your veggies before putting them in the fridge. Keeping it whole (not chopped up will also help this as less enzyme browning will occur)”
“Store asparagus upright in a glass of water to help them stay crisp”
Goal: I want to be less stressed
85% of UK adults are experiencing stress on a regular basis. Maintaining positive thoughts and feelings is easier when you have a little helping hand for those daily stressors.
The Hemp hype is the new generation of natural relief. The Natures Plus “HempCeutix is an extraordinary range that uses the lastest generation technology to produce life-changing products, explains Nutritionist at Natures Plus (www.naturesplus.co.uk), Martina Della Vedova. “HempCeutix Stress (£48.25, www.planetorganic.com) includes 5mg of complete hemp phytocannabinoids per serving. Phytocannabinoids are natural substances found in cannabis sativa plants. When we absorb them, they interact with our nervous system, brain and immune system.
They do this by helping to increase the activity of natural chemicals produced in our own body known as endocannabinoids (note that despite the name, endocannabinoids themselves are not from cannabis – they were simply named after it). Endocannabinoids have effects on many systems and processes in our body, including digestion and appetite, mood, stress response and our immune system.”
This product also contains “essential nutrients and soothing herbs, helping to overcome tiredness and fatigue. These include vitamin E, Zinc, Vitamin B12 and standardised reishi mushroom extract: reishi medicinal mushrooms is a very potent herb which acts as an Adaptogen and eases the body into recovery and balance.”